1on1 MEETING TOOLBOX - #2 A New Blog Series with Dialogue Tips and Tricks of Professional Mentor Hara

Professional Mentor, Hara will introduce 1on1 tips and tricks one by one in the "1on1 Meeting Tool Box" new series Chapter 1!
"Understanding your own thoughts and communication habits"
The second theme is " Know your communication trends / habits" Part 1.

Perseverance is required to produce continuous results. Read this article
"3 Minute Routine" Let's practice on-site while continuing together.

The tips and tricks presented in this series are necessary for the situation and relationships in the Japanese workplace.

English blogs are available up to 5 times (#1 - #5)

1on1 MEETING TOOL BOX Series #2

Where we are now

Please check it for your better understanding if you haven't read the guide article (4/3/2022) and/or the introduction (4/24/2022) yet. ⇓

Chapter 1

Understanding your own thoughts and communication habits

Essential to the success of a 1on1 meeting
・ Forming rapport
・ Psychological safety
To lay the foundation, the foundation
Know your communication trends / habits.

#1 Quiz & FUN

"How would you illustrate yourself to an animal?"

While thinking about this question,
look back on your attitude, behavior, and communication tendencies.

Know your communication trends / habits at work  Part 1

# 1 Quiz & FUN How would you compare yourself at work to an animal? so, Which animal did you choose?

Elephant? Giraffe? Crocodile? Monkey? Lion? …

Communication trends / habits that tend to occur when talking / dialogue From what aspect did you decide on the animal?

At the 1on1 meeting, to promote "dialogue" with the other party,
first you have to know and understand yourself.

Let's start by knowing yourself.

Are you good at leading people?
Do you humbly give control to the other person?
Are you frank and self-assertive?
Do you treat with a warm and attentive attitude?

Modified according to the purpose of 1on1 with reference to
DiSC / social style / animal circle theory etc.

While referring to the figure "Habits of Four Communication (conversation / dialogue)", please read on. Let's understand the basics first.

Control
The vertical line is "force"
If you want to have "power" over your opponent, and if you want to be psychologically superior, you are more likely to control.

Follow
The vertical line is "force"
If you prefer to humbly stay behind rather than be in the upper ranks of your opponent. There is a high tendency to follow.

The line on the vertical axis shows "force", so which one wants to have "force"?
If you have a high tendency to "control", you will prefer a reckless opponent with a high tendency to "follow" rather than competing with someone with a similar tendency.
If you have a high tendency to "follow", you will find a decisive partner with a high tendency to "control" reliable.
In the relationship of the vertical axis of "power", they want each other.

Aggressive
The horizontal axis is "emotion, feeling, intention"
Speak frankly and directly without fear of conflict.
There is a high tendency for aggressive.

Support
The horizontal axis is "emotion, feeling, intention"
Warm and supportive.
Sometimes if you can't get a good sense of distance from the other person,
there is a high tendency for support.

The lines on the horizontal axis indicate "emotions, feelings, intentions". Aggressive (attacks) and support (cooperation) are the opposite.
In the relationship of the vertical axis, they ask each other.
In the relationship on the horizontal axis, they repel each other.
Hostility vs. Favor
Hostility only encourages hostility.

There is no such habit/tendency as superior or inferior.

Which tendency do you have?

Each trend has its pros and cons.

There are also good aspects to deepen mutual relationships and promote communication comfortably.

There is also the downside of disrupting communication and breaking relationships.

So that you tend to have good and bad sides of communication the other party also has a tendency. Each person has different tendencies,
and the situation at that time is also different.

The important thing is to use the right trends at the right time.

Everyone is born with these four basic trends.
It is necessary to train and practice each tendency.

For example, if you are a manager, you are born with a high tendency to "support", even so, sometimes, as a "aggressive", firmly deal with the other party you have to criticize.

To handle complex situations well and to facilitate communication (conversation / dialogue),  let's aim to be a "flexible manager" who has acquired "Tools" that enable mature communication.

Which is the tendency/habit you always tend to take?
Which trend/habit do you want to work on most?

Next time, I'll explain how each trend works.

Next theme

Pillar 1
・ Understand your own thoughts and communication habits
Timeline
・ Before the start of the 1on1 meeting
・ Tailor to each person

Starts" Know your daily life at work"  Part2

#2 Quiz & FUN

"With your communication trends / habits,
what is the aspect that does not work? "

Let's think about it by the next time!

with all of my thanks and friendship

#3 " Know your communication trends / habits" Part 2

Guide article

Introduction

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