尽くす女よりワガママな女がモテるわけ-Why a selfish woman is more popular than a devoted woman-

人間は尽くした相手の事をますます好きになる

女性の中には尽くすタイプもいれば、ワガママばかり言うタイプもいます。もちろん男性からモテるタイプは前者、、、、、と思いきや、実際はそうではありません。むしろ献身的な女性は男性に振り回され、挙げ句の果てには フラれてしまう事もよくあります。
逆にワガママな女性は男性から追いかけられたり、プレゼントをたくさん買ってもらったりと得をすることが多いようです。

ワガママな女性がモテやすい理由の一つは多くの男性が征服欲求を持っていることにあります。男性は簡単に言うことを聞いてくれる相手より、思い通りにならない相手の方が興奮しやすく、多少のワガママには目をつぶってでも自分のものにしようとします。なぜなら、女性を獲得できた時の達成感、満足感も大きくなり自らの自信にもつながるからです。

心理学によると人間は相手に尽くすと、その人の事をさらに好きになる性質があるそうです。つまりモテるからワガママなのではなく、ワガママだからモテるということが成り立つのです。このような現象は、『自己知覚理論』でも説明する事ができます。自己知覚理論とは、自身の行動などによって自分の気持ちや本音に気付くというもの。

他者に対して優しく、献身的なのはとても良い事ですが、「彼を振り向かせたいから尽くしている」という女性は要注意。いつまでもたっても彼のハートは手に入らない可能性が、、、、思い切って尽くすのは止め、ワガママなところを見せてみるのもいいかもしれませんね。

あなたに幸せが訪れますように。

それではまた。
ありがとうございました。

Humans fall more and more in love with the other person who has done their best

Among women, there are those who do their best, and those who are selfish. Of course, you might think that the type that is popular with men is the former, but that's actually not the case. Rather, a devoted woman is swayed by a man, and she is often dumped at the end of the line. On the other hand, selfish women tend to be chased by men and get lots of gifts from men.

One of the reasons selfish women are so popular is that many men have a desire to conquer. Men are more likely to get aroused by someone who doesn't get their way, rather than someone who listens to what they say easily, and they try to make it their own even if they are a little selfish. This is because the sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when you get a woman will increase, and it will lead to her self-confidence.

According to psychology, people tend to like people more when they do something for them. In other words, you are not selfish because you are popular, but you are popular because you are selfish.This phenomenon can also be explained by the Self Perception Theory. The theory of self-perception is that we become aware of our own feelings and true intentions through our own actions.

It's very good to be kind and devoted to others, but beware of women who say, "I'm doing my best because I want to make him turn around." It's possible that you won't be able to get his heart for a long time.It might be a good idea to stop trying so hard and show your selfishness.

May happiness come to you.

See you soon. thank you very much.

※ 参考文献『男と女の生態雑学』