一流の名前の覚え方とは！？-How to remember top-notch names?-
皆さんこんばんわ。前回の記事では一流の雑談前の準備とは！？についてご紹介させて頂きました。一流は相手が心地よく話せるような「表情」を準備するとのことでしたね。気になる方はそちらの記事も併せてチェックしてみてください。そして今回はタイトルの内容ついて『雑談の一流、二流、三流』より一部抜粋してご紹介させて頂きます。
Good evening everyone. In the previous article, I introduced you to the preparations that first-class people make before chatting. The first-class people prepare their facial expressions so that the other person feels comfortable talking to them. If you are interested, please check out that article as well. And this time, I will introduce some excerpts from "First-class, second-class, and third-class chatting" regarding the contents of the title.
”三流は相手の名前を忘れ、二流は名前に意味を持たせ、一流は相手の名前を反復して覚える。昔会ったのに名前が思い出せない。顔と名前が一致しない。こいった経験は、皆さんにもありますよね。相手の名前が思い出せないほど、気まずいことはありません。そこで、すぐにできて、且つ記憶に残りやすい方法を教えます。それは昔から皆さんがやっている行為、「反復」です。名前を繰り返し呼んで覚える、というやり方です。”
”Third-rate people forget names, second-rate people give names meaning, and first-rate people remember names by repeating them. You can't remember someone's name even though you've met them a long time ago. You can't match a face to a name. I'm sure you've all had this experience. There's nothing more awkward than not being able to remember someone's name. So I'll teach you a quick and easy-to-remember method. It's something that everyone has been doing for a long time: repetition. It's a method of remembering a person's name by repeatedly calling their name.”
”エビングハウスの忘却曲線はご存知でしょうか？人は時間が経つにつれ、どんどん忘れていく。逆にすぐに反復すると記憶の定着率が飛躍的に伸びるというものです。会話におけるすぐにとはいつか？それはまぎれもなく会話の最中です。一流は名前の重さを知っています。名前を忘れられたとき、承認欲求がどれだけ下がるか、どれだけ自己否定されたようなイヤな気持ちになるか、そこを重々承知しています。”
”Are you familiar with Ebbinghaus's forgetting curve? People forget more and more as time passes. Conversely, if you repeat something immediately, the rate at which it is retained in your memory increases dramatically. When is "immediately" in a conversation? It is undoubtedly during the conversation. The best know the weight of a name. They are well aware of how much their desire for recognition decreases when their name is forgotten, and how much they feel as if they are being denied themselves.”
皆さんいかがだったでしょうか。自分の名前を覚えてくれていると嬉しいものですよね。会話の中ではなるべく相手の名前を呼んでみましょう。また会った後のお礼のメールでも「○○さん、ありがとうございました。」のように名前を入れると効果的です。僕は最低２回は名前を入れるようにしていましたが、これで内容に目を通してくれる確率も上がります。今回の記事が何か参考になれば幸いです。それではまた。ありがとうございました。
What did you all think? It's nice when someone remembers your name. When you're talking, try to call them by their name as much as possible. It's also effective to include the person's name in your thank you email after meeting them, such as "Thank you, Mr./Ms. XX." I made it a point to include the person's name at least twice, and this increases the chances that they will read the content. I hope this article was helpful in some way. Until next time. Thank you.
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参考文献：雑談の一流、二流、三流
著者：桐生稔
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