It's better not to give unnecessary reasons when refusing (VOL2)

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Well, today, I'm going to continue from yesterday, and I'm going to talk about "It's better not to give unnecessary reasons when you refuse (VOL2)."

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In Japanese schools, they will probably be educated like this in Japanese time.

To be honest, the meaning of this sentence is, "Oh, Mr. 〇〇. I can't come because I don't have money," normally I understand and it's over.

Moreover, everyone uses this kind of example sentence normally, right?

But from a psychological point of view, this example sentence is a sentence that may make the other person angry.

Please read this sentence carefully again.

Do you understand?

Then I'll explain.

It says "I can't go because I don't have money", but is it really related to "I can't go" and "I can't go"?

Please think about it carefully.

Does it really have anything to do with not having money and not being able to go?

Please think about it again.

There is a way to go even if you don't have money, right? Many. Many.

For example, you can go even if you borrow money, go when the money is ready, or go even if you don't have money.

That means that having no money is not a reason to refuse, right?

I'm just making money for the reason because I don't want to go.

Actually, I may not want to go for another reason, but if I tell it as it is, it may hurt the other person or be disadvantageous to me, so I looked for a reason why I couldn't go.

It's not an idea that there is a result because there is a cause, but it's a thought pattern that the result comes first and makes the cause later.

There are so many people who are trapped in this thought pattern, and I can't notice it myself.

Some people notice it when they are pointed out by people, but from the perspective of others, it seems that there are not many people who do not point it out because they say, "I shouldn't hurt you" or "I don't want to get along with you."

So if there is a similar situation in the future and there is a time to look for a reason to refuse, please stop for a moment.

Instead of looking for the reason on the premise of refusing, I will only think about refusing obediently and try to convey my feelings as it is.

If you give an unnecessary reason, you may dare to make people angry.

Of course, there are people who do not understand anything and are convinced by flowing it as it is, but in any case, I think it is wise to choose the words carefully so as not to hurt the other party.

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