How to find a railroad man's best partner (wife)

How to find a railroad man's best partner (wife)

I would like to introduce it to you.

This is a story specific to railroad men, but I think there are some aspects of this story that will appeal to the general public as well.

1. Preparedness

Let's look at the process of getting married first.

Meet.
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go out with
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I'm getting married.

We tend to think that this is a misconception. This is a misconception, which we will discuss in more detail later.

Minimal cleanliness and conversation catchers.
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meet 
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go out with
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I'm getting married.

The first requirement is that the person is worth meeting.
In other words, the first requirement is that it is a person worth meeting. If there are no tracks, the train won't run.

The question of whether a person is worthy of meeting is not about his or her existence, but about whether he or she is ready to get married and whether he or she is able and willing to make the effort to do so.

Let's correct the following misconceptions.
'I want to get married, but I'm not going to change who I am.'

It's impossible. Then you should get tired of getting married. This country lets you choose different ways of life. Spend the rest of your life as a single person. You are free to ignore the uncertainty of the future and live your life as you please. Did you think that you can just get the same results without changing or making any effort? Like a big Japanese company's salary with lifetime employment?

But this country is designed to provide the greatest benefit to three generations of co-workers living together. It's a tough road, but if you've decided on one, go for it.

Now that you've read this far, you must be a person who is ready to change. You are a "person who is prepared to come", aren't you?

2. A person who is worthy of meeting and a railway man

　What makes a person worth meeting? I'm not going to talk about how to dress and how to be popular here because there's no point in talking about how to dress and how to be popular that you can find out. I want you to do your own research and work on it yourself. A minimum of cleanliness and being able to catch a conversation is a requirement to get started. Good luck with that. And if you don't know about minimum cleanliness and conversation catching, please DM me. I'll explain it to you. Next, I'm going to talk about something specific to railroad men here.

First, let's talk about what a railway man is.

It's a local business.
It has stable earnings and benefits.
Shift system

There are some railroad men who don't fit the above criteria, but we won't discuss that here. How do these conditions appear in the eyes of your future wife? It's important to meet a future wife who finds this attractive.
　My future wife is.

I feel like I want to stay in my hometown if possible, and it helps to have stability. I'd appreciate it if you could help me with childcare and household chores.

This is considered to be the kind of girl who would like to be a part of this group. Next, let's take a look at the categories of girls to see what kind of girls those girls are. First, let's take a look at the two categories of girls who split into two when they enter the workforce.

Those who remain in their hometown as they enter the workforce.
As they enter the workforce, they move out to urban areas.

The railroad man we are discussing here is favored by the former because they have similar interests. So, how do you find a future wife who is still in your hometown and will find you attractive?

3. Who to meet - the most important step

　So how do you find girls who are still local? Should I just wander around town and ask them to join me? I think that would be a good idea, but not in these times.
I feel that I want to stay in my hometown if possible, the conditions I mentioned above, and it helps to be stable. I'd appreciate it if you could help me with childcare and household chores. Of the two, I'd like to stay in my hometown if possible, can be grasped if I know "one thing" by the time we meet. It's a job. Occupations that "I got a job because I want to stay local" could be

Nurses and other hospital-related jobs
Teachers and other school-related
Beauty Consultants, etc.

Look for this target audience. This is not because this job is likely to be crushing and double income. It is because they are more likely to think of you as a good fit. Girls who get this job are generally quite positive about staying in their hometown and being able to stay. They tend to have a lot in common with each other in the sense that there is a social necessity that has not changed for the machines and the history is old. If people know that you are a railroad man, your reputation will go up without a drop. As for where to look for him/her, you can use introductions, a blind date party, or a matching application, etc. Please look for the one that suits you best. The best place to find one is at a party. You can also have lunch at a party. Gokon is, after all, an introduction, and "one-on-one introduction" is also a chance to meet someone. Gokon is not a party for college students or first or second year workers, but a cross-industry social gathering for adults over 25 years old. It is a party for people over 25 years old and for the purpose of marriage life. Ask the organizer what the atmosphere is like when you attend the party. Ask the organizer what the atmosphere is like when you attend, and make sure you talk to your colleagues and junior colleagues early on so that they will ask you to join the party. If you are not invited to the meeting, you will not be able to meet them.

4. How often do you meet with them?

　Now that you have decided to find your future wife, you don't have time to do anything else that doesn't involve that. You have to continue to improve yourself and at the same time, you have to go to the aforementioned places to meet people. The question is, how often should you go? How often should you go? Here's a rule of thumb. All railroad men are irregular. Women, especially in the above jobs, have different work schedules. However, it is difficult for their schedules to coincide with each other since there is no common holiday. In that case, you should plan on going out for dinner and having fun with the girls as opposed to a plain schedule. And hopefully, you will meet at least three girls a week. You will be in contact with about 12 girls at the same time, or about that many dates per month. But don't feel guilty about it, and don't worry about it.
　People aren't testing each other and there is no pass/fail. What there is is not a fit. No matter how good looking you are, when you're not good enough, you're not good enough and beautiful women get rejected. Hurt and cancellations are inevitable. If this is the case, you should still pack your schedule. And the great good news is that you won't have to worry about mistakes or things going wrong. Your mentality will be stronger. Because the bats will come around sooner rather than later. Don't be afraid. Stand at bat and swing the bat. It will come around soon.

5 Repeat, and then swing.

　I think you'll have a girlfriend in two months. As soon as you get to that point, think about whether this girl is your future wife. You met and went out with her because you wanted to get married. Think about that next. The moment you think about it, two things will probably come to your mind.

One is that you'll never get married...
The other one is, I don't know.

　If you think you're not going to get married, even if you've been dating for a day, break up with them. If you don't, that feeling will stay with you forever. If you don't get married, you may end up getting divorced or cheating on your wife. Go back to the drawing board and contact 12 people a month, going on 12 dates. If you break up with someone after just one day of going out, you may be told not to go out with them at random. If so, what is a serious relationship? Is it to get married? This discussion is meaningless. There is no point in looking for the right answer to something that people feel differently about.
　There are only people here who are seriously thinking about how to make the best partner (wife) and those who want to help a little bit (me). If you're not sure if you're ready to marry this person, then you should still continue the relationship. From here on out, we'll just go about our lives normally without thinking about it. Again, the irregular life of a railroad man encourages a smooth relationship with your partner. When you're working overnight, it's time to physically and forcefully distance yourself from your partner for a little while. It provides a time for both of you to understand each other's needs and to chill out if any conflicts arise.
　Marriage, unlike dating, can be a hurdle. But if a man and woman of marriageable age get together, they are aware of marriage even if they are unconscious. If nothing else, they will get married within a year. If nothing else...

6. Conclusion

　

We ended up talking about how he was a railroad man without talking about his personal attractiveness. Indeed, if I think back, many railroad men's wives are either in-house or nurses. I think that's one of the reasons why they understand night shifts. But if you think about it in an industry with night shifts, the denominator should be too low. I would recommend looking for it as much as considering it a positive to stay in your hometown.
　As a start to the discussion, "A minimum of cleanliness and the ability to catch a conversation is a requirement to get started". I honestly think this is a tough one for many people. But you should get over that yourself. If you don't learn to do this naturally and without stress as a way of life, you won't be able to endure the stresses of life with a certain partner afterwards, no matter how big or small. You should be able to do this here like brushing your teeth. I've been talking about mentality all the way through, and I'm sure there are pros and cons to this. But I hope I can help the railroad man in a small way. Complaints can be directed to DM.
　Someday, I'll be writing "How to get dressed in two months" and "Strategies for dating after you're over 25".

The End