Hey, Listen

Today I had a therapy appointment with my favorite counselor.
By favorite, I mean that I am not uncomfortable talking to her and I trust her as a counselor. I don't mean that I am dependent on her.

It was only an hour of therapy, but I got some good inspiration today.

There's a point in my life where I've been stumbling. I talked about it, and she gave me some hints to help me untangle those stumbling blocks.

She talked about the boundaries I have and the boundaries others have.
She said that I am terribly susceptible to what others say and do because my boundaries with them are so fuzzy. And that the person who are close to me and with whom I intend to maintain a good relationship is also fuzzy in her own boundaries, so she andI influence each other too much and it's hard.

And then there are the waves. I heard that there are waves with various cycles. Seconds, minutes, hours. Then there is a day, a season, a year, a life.

Waves are comfortable when they are regular and within a certain range, but if they are irregular, too large in amplitude, or exceed a certain range that is tolerable, they lead to a variety of unpleasant events.

She said I am now swaying slightly below limits.

I think I'm not making waves, but rather I'm repeatedly going up and up and up.

She said calm is important too. The challenge this time was to figure out how to maintain the calm time on the lower side of the wave, or more specifically, how to bring it to calm when it is up and up.

I will give it a lot of thought.
I will also try to spend some time being aware of boundaries.
That's about it!

Have a nice day.