What would be the first things I’d teach my kids (if I ever decided to have and raise one in the future)?

・Resilience

I’d patiently remind them that when they fail, or things go wrong / unexpected in life, they can ALWAYS learn from the experience and start over again.
It’s OK to take a slow step; take as much time as they want to be able to rise up and start walking again. As long as they have their life, there is no limit in trying out something new or taking risks to go for uncommon paths and be adventurous. When things go wrong, just think “What do I do from here?” instead of seeing it as “End of my life”.

・ Ability to think

I’d be happy to ask as many questions as I can to my future kids.
If my kids decide to ask me something, I’d start by asking them “How did you feel about it?” “Are there any other ways you could think of?” so they could possibly recall and pounder upon their thoughts and feelings.
I don’t want them to think as though "given answer is the fixed answer" so I’d patiently wait till they boldly ask me “What is your take then, mom?” to let my thoughts spilled out. I also believe it’d be easier for them to have their thoughts associated with their parents’ one when they heard it before generating their own so be patient, future me.

・Ability to put themselves in other people’s shoes

I’d tell them the truth: people around them, regardless of how much they look alike in their appearance (happens in Japan a lot of the times), have all kinds of different backgrounds and hence the different individuals.
There is no such thing as “same people” in this world.
It is therefore important to always try to put themselves in other people’s shoes (such a cliché I know, but still, many people lack this ability).
I know it gets hard at times, but I want them to be patient enough not to jump into the conclusion and think “I don’t understand him” before even trying to imagine where they are coming from.

Here are the three main teachings I consider as my “core-teaching” to my future kids.
Also, before getting in to the talk of those abilities, the most basic I'd like to teach them is the fact that they're loved. I want them to remember that they're worthy and there are people who truly love them no matter what happens in life.

I’m sure I’d start to feel like I want to tell them more than those basics in the future, but these are the kind of the minimum life skills I can think of passing on to my future kids from a 27year old perspective today.

If I don’t receive any kids or decide not to have one in the future, I guess I’d still keep these core-teaching to myself and remind me of the importance of such basics, over and over again.

Peace!