Saying that you have something to talk about but not saying the agenda is a sign that you don't want the other person to think about it.

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Today, I'm going to talk about "I don't say the agenda while saying that I have something to talk about is a manifestation of what I don't want the other person to think about."

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Well, everyone.

Have you all experienced it at least once?

"We need to talk, so let's get together!" I was told that, it's good to get together, but I haven't been asked what to talk about at all.

What on earth does this mean?

In the first place, it's enough to say, "Let's get together because we have something to talk about," so there's an agenda, so let's all talk about it, right?

But it's obviously unnatural to dare not say that, isn't it?

The person who called out to him summoned everyone because he felt some doubts and felt the need to discuss with everyone.

That means that you can go one step ahead of everyone and think about the question, so you have time to prepare some answers.

So, on the contrary, what about the people who gathered without knowing the agenda?

You need to gather without knowing anything, be told the agenda on the spot, and start thinking from that state.

This is an obvious handicap, isn't it?

Moreover, the weakness of Japanese people stops thinking when they are suddenly shaken.

Because it's an ethnic group that is not used to discussion in the first place.

That means the final purpose is obvious, isn't it?

Why don't you tell the agenda in advance to get together and talk?

It's to pass your own answer without making everyone think about the answer.

If you stop thinking, the rest will be due to the peer pressure, and your thoughts will pass unexpectedly easily.

So if you can talk to me like this in the future, "Tell me the agenda in advance?" Or, if you don't give an answer right away on the spot, why don't you prepare a little?

Of course, not everyone is thinking like this, but there are people who are worried properly and want to think together with everyone, and they are really worried, so in terms of proportion, it is about 6 to 4, or 7 to 3, and the head is the one who is prepared. Why don't you just put it inside?

If you raise the ratio to 80% and 90% too much, you will have a biased way of thinking this time, so it will cause you to destroy human relationships.

So please be careful about that.

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