How to answer to regain the calmness you take when you are asked an irritating question.

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Well, today I'm going to talk about "how to answer to regain the calmness you take when you are asked an annoying question".

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How do you react when you are asked an irritated question?

I made you irritated, so do you answer annoyingly, ignore it without saying anything, or hide your irritation and dare to answer gently?

As for the person who shows the last reaction, there is nothing to say anymore, rather, it is a higher version of the reaction that is much higher than the way I will tell you from now on, so if you can do this, you don't have to read any more.

So, what is the method I want to tell you today? That said, when you are irritated, you have to reply something, but you can't hide your frustration and answer gently.

It's for those who are a little local, but I will talk to those who say so.

So, I'm going to start with the conclusion today.

The method is a reaction of "telling only the facts".

No emotion. No emotion.

When you tell that fact, you don't have feelings, you just tell the facts indifferently.

Then, the reason why you can't put emotions on it is because there is a property that emotions propagate.

In other words, when you return a reaction when you are irritated by the other person's words, most people will return an angry reaction.

For example, say something back or show it with an attitude.

Then, what does the returned person think when he sees it? Emotions are transmitted, so of course, I'm an stingyed.

If that happens, it will be an annoying exchange no matter how long it takes, so we'll end up falling out.

So, in order not to be like that, it is important to put your emotions aside and just tell the facts.

I understand how you feel.

I was irritated, so it's not my fault.

I understand what you want to say, but if you are a person who doesn't want to end the relationship with a temporary reaction, please try this method.

By the way, in psychology, it has been proven that if you endure for about 5 seconds, the irritation will be cured.

So, after telling only the facts, if you don't caress your emotions for about 5 seconds, your irritation will surely disappear, and I think you can settle down and talk to the other person.

One more thing, if you are a person who can be stroked over and over again, it may be better to reconsider how to deal with them.

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