Meaningless encouragement doesn't lead to a solution.

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Isn't there anyone around you?

A person who sees people's failures and encourages them meaninglessly.

Even if you do this, it doesn't mean anything, unfortunately.

Rather, from the point of view of the person who is told, I become even more pathetic and fall into self-loathing, "What on earth should I do ...", so at worst, if you originally have negative thoughts, it's quite troublesome. You will fall into the situation, so please be careful.

Even if that's just that, don't you learn a lot?

But today it's not like that, but I'm going to talk about "meaningless encouragement doesn't solve anything", so I'll proceed with this theme.

For example, when you make a mistake, you usually say, "Why am I like this?" I get depressed.

At that time, I'm sure most people around you will encourage you for the time being.

When I was depressed, I had the experience of being like that, and the adults and teachers around me taught me to encourage my friends when they were depressed since I was little.

That's why I have an easy idea to encourage you because I'm depressed.

It's like, "Well, don't be so depressed, you should do your best again."

But this word sounds like it comes from kindness at first glance, but if you look closely at the contents, it doesn't have much meaning at all.

That's because there are not many people who can be revived immediately when they say "Don't be depressed" in front of a depressed person.

I mean, people who can be resurrected right away don't need people's help.

After that, there are not many people who can be so positive right away, and there are not many people who can do their best so quickly, and people who can do their best positively after being told by others, don't need the encouragement of others.

In other words, the words of encouragement saying "Don't be depressed, do your best" at this time have hardly reached the other party.

But the fact that those words came out was meaningful, and at that time, the psychology of encouragement that "I have to say something" worked.

It's the feeling of encouragement that I was taught when I was little.

But in the end, I don't know how to talk to you, but this air is heavy, I want to brighten this air somehow, I want to make it lighter, I want to encourage the depressed person, "How can I get rid of this atmosphere?" It's a word of compassion that's all for myself, so this is the easiest place for everyone to misunderstand, but in fact, I'm not saying it to people who are depressed, but really, I'm saying it to myself.

So no matter how many words you say, you can hardly reach the other person.

That's why it's meaningless.

Then, if you really want to reach the other person, what kind of words would you say?

In this scene, I'm sure the most reachable word is, "What do you think went wrong?" Or, "What do you think was the cause?" Or, "Why didn't it work?" Or something like that.

If you want to improve the accuracy of catching the other person's feelings, "Why am I like this?" After that, "I wonder why?" If you put in a light symbly, after that, "What do you think was the cause?" It will come alive.

What was the cause of that? It makes you think for yourself.

Then, if you know the cause, you will know how to deal with it.

If you know how to deal with it, you may not make the same failure anymore.

That's how we make a connection and nurture people.

So as today's conclusion, I will summarize it again at the end.

Meaningless encouragement does not lead to a solution, so at least it will make you think about the cause for yourself.

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I'm sorry, I forgot to pay attention to one last thing.

It doesn't work for people who are very depressed.

It's impossible for a person who is so full of negative aura that no one can get away.

If you are such a person, please keep quiet and watch over him on the side, until time allows.

If you do that, you will naturally raise your face.

At that time, "How are you feeling?" Or, "Do you want to drink something?" Or, it's best to talk to them lightly.

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