Psychology for Overcoming “Can’t talk with person who I met first time...”

Most of us feels nervous when you start conversation with new people without doubt. I remember when I became high school student, starting to concern about conversation with new people what they think of me or what they want me to say... till going out my country to try changing myself to have confident for that matter and want English skills like that.

So here might be useful article for you and me too, appreciate to researchers.↓

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Humans have their own bias of being perceived “I am not liked by others...”

According to research’s conclusion firstly↓
“It is seriously harder to figure out whether conversation partner likes you or not from your conversation accurately than you imagine.”

This procedure is highly important in our social life. Many of us gets an enormous experiences from daily life but as it is so hard to presume your conversation partner what they want, talk, or feel(vice verse)

Most of us tends to underestimate ourselves for the conversation prodigally.

Why that occurs? According to researcher↓
“”Majority of us does not know “what to say to your conversation partner” or “You consider your conversation partner gives you signal liking you or interesting in you” You are filled up with those unnecessary worries... and it’s so obvious and easy for third person watching that conversation and find out if the conversation goes well or not.”” =<Liking gap> that researchers called.
* Majority of us does too underestimate your communication ability
* It does not matter whether the conversation is not related about a lab or social one the <Liking gap> is occurred
* Once you feel “You are not being interested by him or her...” makes that emotion continues several months

Normally, human is pretty optimistic creature other circumstance. Despite of that, they become pessimistic in the conversation all of the sudden. It’s astonishing phenomenons...

For example, many of us think “I am smarter than anyone” or “I will life longer than others”. It’s famous story for optimism bias. But when it goes to the conversation... it goes to pessimism... Totally understandable.