Silence is sometimes effective when listening to troubles. (2021/9/19 I listened to my child's worries!! ️ Brush-up blog)

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Sai & Co. This is Sai & Co. from WAKU Challenge Lab.

Well, today, I will brush up on my past blogs and talk about "There are times when silence is effective when listening to troubles."

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Now let's get down to business.

We have a daughter in middle school.

I'm still in puberty, but I'm not in that kind of rebellious period yet.

However, it is a very important time to establish your own identity, so it is a time when your mentality fluctuates in various ways.

What do you want to do when you are shaken by each and every thing, such as your relationship with friends and parents, and your future course? what do you want to be It's time to hate all the things that surround you.

There are times when you worry, think, and suffer alone, but it is also a test to gradually become an adult.

First of all, it's such an important time that if you pass this safely, you can say, "I can grow one step further."

However, it will be a long time before I realize that.

For example, during this period, if you go in the wrong direction or keep stumbling, you will run into delinquency, become withdrawn, or even commit suicide. I have.

The preamble has become a little longer, but please understand that this is such an important time.

Now let's talk about our house.

At my house, the other day, my junior high school daughter was worried.

In relationships with her friends.

When she heard the story, she usually doesn't talk much, but she was a little worried, so I talked to her daughter.

As a matter of course, at first he didn't speak much, and he didn't look at me and say anything.

I think there was also a smell of embarrassment because the story suddenly became serious.

But I was also a little worried about her daughter, so I took the courage to ask her about various things.

In response to my words, my girlfriend's daughter began to speak little by little. It seems that.

Moreover, as is often the case, it seems that they are falling into self-loathing because they are unable to convey that fact and can only have a superficial relationship.

If you are an adult, you know that there are many ways to get along, even if they are superficial.

So, at an early stage, you realize that you don't have to worry so much, but children are still ignorant of the world, and in the narrow community of "school", I think it is difficult to know how to get rid of those worries. .

Well, if it can't be helped, it's an unavoidable environment.

When you're a student, it's considered fair to go to school, let alone in compulsory education, and your human rights tend to be treated as if your parents hold them, and most adults think that way only when it's convenient.

As for my daughter, it seems that she began to see changes in her feelings as she managed to draw out her true feelings while interacting with her on LINE.

After an exchange where she wondered if she had asked too deeply, she used her communication skill of “silence” to see what was going on because she didn’t get a response from herself.

No response after a while...

I thought that there would be no progress at this rate, so I asked him again how he felt.

Then, in the answer that came back, I found out that there was a change in her daughter's mindset.

She is the moment her demeanor changes.

And she was really helpful because she was in the right direction.

Inwardly, "Okay! ’ and gave a guts pose.

From there it's fine.

The text on her LINE has clearly changed to positive.

I think I'm fine with this for the time being.

It's still a sensitive time, she says.

This is the age when children are especially susceptible to being influenced by people close to them, such as friends, parents, and teachers. is.

In particular, my daughter is highly sensitive, so she is easily influenced by people, and she also has the power to observe.

If it's bad, it's easy to be pulled by people, so you can't take your eyes off it.

However, I am a male parent.

I have a slightly different relationship with my daughter, so I decided to keep my distance from my daughter, not to be too close or too far away, not to interfere too much, not to be indifferent, and raise my daughter until she can be independent. .

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