It's difficult to communicate, what should I do?

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This answer is also easy.

It's difficult to communicate, isn't it?

So, the counselor is stressed about that.

Then, wouldn't it be better not to force yourself to communicate?

That's my answer.

The fact that communication is difficult is not the problem of the consultant in the first place, but the problem of the other party, right?

That person, for example, is it difficult to communicate because of illness or something, or if you have a bad smooth tongue and you don't know what you're talking about, or if you stand in front of the consultant, you get nervous and your mind goes blank. There are various reasons why I don't know what I'm talking about, so I don't know what the cause is.

If you know the cause, it's just a matter of removing the cause, right?

That's why you need to ask the other person directly, and of course, you need to be careful not to hurt them.

I'm sure there's a great possibility that many of these people are talking without being very conscious of it.

In order not to hurt your pride, for example, "I'm sorry, I'm always trying to understand what you say, but I don't understand well at the end every time, why?" I'm going to ask the other person in such a way.

I'm going to talk about it on the premise that it's up to me.

If you do that, the other person will misunderstand that it's not your fault that you can't communicate.

But the other party is in trouble.

So I'll think about it together.

You can take it to this kind of psychology.

However, if the other party is not aware of it, the answer may not come out immediately, so at that time, I think it would be good to repeat the question and find out the reason why the two of you are not able to communicate.

On the other hand, if the other party was aware that they could not communicate, they could answer right away.

When I heard that answer, I said, "Well, let's do this at that time," or "How about this method?" Or, "Isn't it easier to communicate like this?" Or, that idea comes out naturally.

In that way, I think it would be good for the two of you to think about countermeasures and consider how to communicate without the most mistakes.

The way to communicate is not just conversation.

Emails, chats, letters, notes, etc. If you give other examples, it will come out endlessly.

After that, I think it's better for the two of us to decide which one to choose, whether we can continue without each other's trouble.

However, I don't know the cause.

I can't tell you the reason.

If you are a person who doesn't intend to say it from the beginning, this is already a problem with the relationship between the two of you, so you need to look at it in the long term.

If you really want to communicate, the first thing to do is to repair human relationships.

We need to start from now on, so this requires a lot of time and effort, a battle with your pride, and you need to be prepared for these things.

So, if you still need to communicate with that partner, at that time, I recommend you to work on restoring human relationships first, or if you don't start from there, it will almost never work.

I can only explain it casually here, but due to the number of characters on the blog, the key to restoring relationships is to accept the existence of the other person as a whole.

It is to continue to approve everything the other person does.

If you do that, eventually, I don't know when it will be, but the other party will also turn to you someday.

So please try to be patient until then.

Well, in the end, it's time to be defiant if you don't care about the relationship with the other person.

Well, for me, as I said at the beginning, I recommend this method the most.

Because it's the quickest way to deal with it.

It's the best way for someone who wants to keep a good sense of distance without leaving.

I'll tell you that method one last time.

That is, "Don't try to force yourself to communicate."

If you force yourself to do it, you'll get excited, so you'll be addicted to it.

I'm getting irritated by not being able to communicate, and I'm starting to spoil my mood by myself, and I'm going to spill my emotions alone.

It's going to be like that.

If that happens, you will be worried about the eyes of the people around you, and "That person will get emotional soon, so be careful!" There is a possibility of being labeled.

This means, "I'm a person to watch out for."

In the worst case, there is a possibility that you can degrade yourself to that extent, so the trick is not to get into that negative loop before you get into the acupuncture point.

That's what it means to have a mind that doesn't force yourself to communicate.

After getting addicted to dotsubo, it's too late to ask for help from the people around you.

I'm sure, for many people, the consultant himself seems to be in a bad mood.

When I said how bad the other person was, I said, "Eh? But you're in a bad mood, you're loud, aren't you?" What, it's going to be an evaluation.

That's why for the consultant, dealing with someone who is difficult to communicate from the beginning is the only way to lose.

There's a high possibility of that.

Therefore, when you interact with these kinds of people, you only need to make good use of the place where you can communicate and make use of it to carry out the task.

Your brain has a very good function, and even if it is a little wrong word or sentence, your brain has a function to correct and understand it without permission.

So don't worry and listen to what that person says.

As you listen to it, you'll get used to it, and in general, you'll understand what that person is saying.

Still, when you don't understand at all, you can put an interpreter between someone.

Or, just in case, I tried to communicate, but when I don't understand what you're saying, ignore it all at that time, think about it yourself, and proceed with the task.

Even if you think about it forever, you can't move forward.

Even if it becomes a wrong result, I will notice what I should have done at that time, so I think I should fix it from there.

When it's a fatal failure, it can't be helped.

Let's give up.

Let's give up and accept that failure.

The failure will definitely turn into the consultant's own nourishment, so the human power will increase considerably.

Well, I can think of various other situations, and there are a lot of ways to deal with it, so I'll stop around here for the time being.

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