How to get zero stress. (“2021/9/29 I boldly ignored things that had nothing to do with me!! ️” brush-up blog)

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Sai & Co. This is Sai & Co. from WAKU Challenge Lab.

Well, today I'm going to brush up on my past blog about "how to make stress zero" and explain it.

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I have a rather meddlesome personality, and when I see what people are doing, I think, "I'm doing something useless." It's great!" I feel various things.
(This is still true today.)

Sometimes work stops...
(I've always had a hobby of observing people, so I really like watching people's behavior, especially behavior that doesn't make sense. I also analyze people's characteristics from that.)

It is true that I am more sensitive than others, but regardless of whether this sensitivity is good or bad, I sometimes torment myself.

In particular, the information that comes in through the eyes (visual), the information that comes in through the ears (auditory), and the information that comes in through the nose (smell) interferes in various ways.
(So-called HSP. I self-analyze that I am a highly sensitive person. I'm only listing negative elements here, but of course there is also a positive side. For example, I can take care of people. I understand feelings, I'm good at analyzing things, etc. There are occupations that make use of this, such as counselors, doctors, care workers, marketing, and teaching others. You can also become a regular employee.)

So how can a highly sensitive person live more comfortably? I tried to study.

And I found out that I can spend it without stress in a surprisingly easy way.

That is the theme of this blog, ``Ignore what has nothing to do with you''.

It sounds a bit irresponsible, but people are surprisingly indifferent to things other than themselves.
(For example, even if the trousers of the person in front of you are open, you won't say much to them. Even if you see someone with heavy makeup, you won't say, "Your makeup is heavy." You almost never say things like, "That dress doesn't look cool." It's because they're not interested. If it is, I'm interested and will fix it soon.)

So it's a psychological trick that takes advantage of it.
(In psychology terms, it's called "separation of tasks." It's a method of reducing stress by determining whose task you're facing. They treat it as a problem, so even if you try to solve it yourself, it's not your problem, so you're bound to fail.Therefore, this is one of the skills that I would like everyone to master.)

If you don't use it consciously, or if you just use it blindly, it will come back to you later, so be careful.
(What I mean by this is that if you ignore your own issues, you will be disadvantaged this time. There's no harm in ignoring it, but you know, if you drop your wallet and don't treat it as your problem, the entire money in your wallet is gone. It is said that if you do it, you will get retaliation.)

But this is a really good technique.

Sometimes the mind becomes clearer.

It is especially recommended for those who are concerned about the behavior of others.

Try to ignore things that do not harm you.
(This is what we call "separation of concerns".)

People around me may be nervous, but unexpectedly, it doesn't affect me and I don't know what to do.
(Japanese people are a particularly cooperative race, so if you're alone and you're lazy, you'll feel uneasy, but you'll get used to it quickly. People are highly adaptable creatures. that's why.)

Even if the commotion is over, it is almost impossible to blame yourself.
(Because it's not my problem.)

If you are blamed for ignoring something, simply say "I'm sorry" and most people will forgive you.
(If you want to settle the matter peacefully, you can choose to apologize. But if you don't think you need to apologize, let's boldly ignore this. If someone comes, it's called the Dark Triad, and it's useless to get involved with them, so withdraw as soon as you find out.)

That's why today I've explained how to easily reduce stress to zero.

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