A plan to double your friendship by pretending to know your personality.

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Well, today, I'm going to talk about "a plan to double friendship by knowing your personality" while brushing up my blog in the past.

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Then it's the main topic.

What kind of person do you want to have a deep and long-term relationship with?

After all, isn't that a person you get along with?

Then what kind of person do you get along with?

The conclusion is that the tempo of the conversation is right.

When the tempo of the conversation is right, don't you ever think, "I'm a like-minded person"?

In other words, it's good to deal with this "I feel like it" experience.

It's pretty easy.

Then, about that method, what I'm always careful about is that I change the way I talk depending on the other person.

Specifically, when you talk to me brightly, I return it brightly, when I talk to you in the dark, I return it in the dark, I adjust the atmosphere to the other person, and I also match the words I use as much as I know according to the age.

(Psychologically speaking, it's the law of the mirror.

In other words, it is a method that uses the tuning effect to synchronize the other party and yourself to make the other person feel a sense of security.

Of course, it's a law, so not everyone can expect this effect.

Some people are not upset at all even if they make the same way of speaking, the same movement, and the same atmosphere, and on the contrary, some people are suspicious.

So, in order to use this method, it is very effective if you have the skill to determine the other person's personality to a certain extent.

On the other hand, for those who can't understand this method, throw it all away and it's a head-to-head game.

I wonder if there is only one way to talk to me and get along with each other little by little.)

If the tone of the voice is high, make it a higher tone, and if the tone is low, make it lower.

Everything will be tailored to the other party.

In other words, I will let you control the place.

If you do that, the tempo of the conversation will naturally match, and the conversation will progress in a good atmosphere.

The other party also gets carried away and even says things that they don't usually say.

"Eh! Can I say that?" It even teaches you things like that, so the intimacy increases, and the reliability increases by sharing secrets.

(Sharing secrets is quite intimate, isn't it?

Because keeping it a secret means it's just for the two of us, isn't it?

There is a meaning in making it a common thing between these two people, and people are originally creatures that want to be friends, so they talk about their secrets because they want friends and try to make them friends.

Moreover, if you have a friend with a high degree of closeness, the bond will be stronger and the sense of security will increase, right?

So I have a kind of conversation like, "This is about Naisho ..." or "I don't want you to tell anyone ..."

However, I think most of these stories are what I really want to be kept secret, but some of them want me to spread the secret.

Moreover, some people reveal their secrets right away.

That's why some people use that habit to tell secrets for the purpose of spreading.

Moreover, it is quite difficult to determine whether to "do you really keep it a secret" or "a person who spreads", and it is not something that can be judged if you do not experience a lot.

There is only one way to improve your identification skills.

There is no other way but to gain experience with practice, training, and trial and error.

If you don't want to go that far, you can keep what you were told to be a secret, and if you keep it a secret, it will be surprisingly safe.)

However, not everyone is like that, but it is a method that works in a good proportion.

Even if you do not open your heart right away, it will be easier to open it if you repeat it several times, and if there are people who say "I want to connect with this person" or "I want to be deeply involved with this person", please try it.

By the way, if you can't do it for about half a year, that person just didn't have a connection with you.

Let's give up and look for the next one.

The same kind of people will definitely come out.

See you later✌️

(People are said to be ten people and ten colors, but depending on the type to a certain extent, it can only be divided into a few types.

The classification method I recommend the most is Enneagram.

This is a scheme that analyzes a person's personality by dividing it into 9 types.

As for those 9 types, it comes out as soon as you google it, so I will omit it, but those 9 types of personalities come out when they are positive, flat, and negative, and create their own words and actions.

In other words, your personality can be made with a combination of three kinds of personalities.

But this scheme has a little time to analyze, so it's difficult to guess the person's personality as soon as we meet, but the classification is detailed, so by the time the analysis is over, you can do a pretty complete personality analysis, and the rest is the person's mind It is an analysis method that focuses on tilt, so it can also be applied to coaching.

So how was today's story?

Every day like this, I use psychology and personality analysis to send out how to make good relationships and how to raise people.

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See you later✌️)