Guilty dog barks first. It's the truth. He will get upset easily when he finds out that you have found out what he has been up to. Nothing surprises me anymore because I've gotten used to it.I know it's not a nice feeling when you have no way of proving you are not guilty. The whole world has had full of lies but the only one that really matters is I know the truth. So you should smile and let them know you don't care what is being said.There is no reason to feel guilty if you can't forgive... That's just putting more emotional baggage on yourself. Letting go and finding closure does not require forgiveness.I find that most people assume you are talking about them especially when they know they are guilty of doing wrong.