When is the real parenting season?

Graduation ceremonies will be held at most public high schools on March 1, the day after tomorrow.

In the classroom after the ceremony, the students greeted each other and said to their parents (especially mothers) standing behind them, "Thank you for raising me up until now." It is often seen.

After that, young people who graduate from high school often leave home to go on to higher education or find a job.

I think that most parents and guardians think that "child-rearing is over" or "the child has left the parent's control" with that.

However, I rather think that "this is the beginning of real parenting."

In the parenting of birds, which is the origin of the word ``fledging'', after the period from when the chicks hatch to when they leave the nest and leave the nest, there is an important period of ``independence and parting'', which is twice as long as before. increase.

Once the young birds leave the nest, they do not actually travel far away, but stay several dozen meters away from the nest.

In the meantime, at the beginning, the parent birds will bring food and let them eat.
Parent birds teach them how to fly, how to catch food, and how to cook.

Then, when autumn passes and winter approaches, the parent birds enter the stage of "farewelling", and the parent birds begin to drive the young birds out of their territories.
Even if it is a child, it will be treated as an adult bird and will continue to be chased over and over again.

Young birds that return to their nests, even when chased, eventually travel far away in search of their own habitat.

In the human world, child-rearing seems to completely miss the concept of "separation" after "leaving the nest".

Even if they are far away, there is no doubt that young people still do not have enough power to spread their wings in society, and rather, their confidence is wavering even in the direction in which they are flying.

“How can I find a job that I can do in the wider world, help people, and build trust among people?”

They don't teach you these things in school.
It is a completely different dimension from course learning.

Also, in life, "How do you find a friend you can get along with, and how do you meet a partner?"

These are things that you will eventually acquire by yourself in the midst of a series of failures, but there are times when young people may come back with pain or illness.
It goes without saying that what kind of words and attitudes parents can prepare is very important.

The question, "What should I do to live a strong life?" is not written in textbooks and cannot be learned in exams. I think it's time to face the real parenting.